THERAPY FOR WOMEN WHO SELF-ABANDON
Your exhausted from it
You’re giving so much of yourself—to your partner, your friends, your family, your job—that sometimes it feels like there’s nothing left for you.
Every day you put others first, constantly checking in on their needs, their happiness, their approval. And in the quiet moments, when no one is watching, you feel it: the emptiness, the exhaustion, the nagging question, “Where did I go?”
Every time you self-abandon, your mind and body are hearing the same message: “My needs don’t matter.”
And when that becomes the story you tell yourself over and over, it affects everything—the love you attract, the confidence you carry, the life you imagine for yourself.
You can’t show up fully for the life you want if you’re still putting yourself last. Change begins the moment you choose yourself, even when it feels impossible.
Choosing Yourself Changes Everything
When you start choosing you first, a shift happens. You begin to notice the ways you’ve been silencing your voice, shrinking your needs, and settling for less than you deserve. You begin to remember what it feels like to truly want something for yourself—and to actually allow yourself to go after it.
Choosing yourself is not selfish. It’s self-honoring. It’s the foundation for every transformation you’ve been longing for, from cultivating self-confidence to building a life and relationships that truly reflect your worth.
You Rewrite How You Show Up in Love
In dating, it can feel like you’re doing everything right—you’re putting yourself out there, being open, showing interest. But underneath, the story is often different.
You over-give, over-compromise, and overanalyze every interaction. You find yourself drawn to people who aren’t fully available, hoping that if you just try harder or give more, things will finally feel right. And when they don’t, you blame yourself, wondering what’s wrong with you.
But love does not require self-abandonment.
Through therapy, you learn to approach dating differently—curious rather than desperate, open rather than anxious, grounded rather than grasping. You begin to trust your intuition, recognize red flags, and hold your standards without apology.
Slowly, effortlessly, you start to attract partners who show up fully, and in that shift, you find calm, clarity, and confidence—whether you are single or in a relationship.
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Creating Space for Yourself in Ongoing Relationships
Even in long-term partnerships, friendships, or family dynamics, self-abandonment can quietly erode your sense of self.
You may shrink to avoid conflict, silence your needs to keep the peace, or constantly compromise to prevent disappointment. Over time, this creates a profound sense of invisibility, leaving you feeling unseen, undervalued, and disconnected from the life you want.
In our work together, you’ll reclaim your voice. You’ll learn to express yourself with clarity and confidence, to set and maintain boundaries without guilt, and to honor your needs while still showing love and loyalty.
You’ll begin to choose connections that feel nurturing, reciprocal, and safe, and you’ll let go of those that diminish or exhaust you.
Reclaiming Your Power at Work
Self-abandonment doesn’t end at home—it often follows you into your career. You overperform, say yes when you mean no, and minimize your voice to avoid conflict or discomfort. You tolerate being overlooked or underpaid, and the constant effort to prove your worth leaves you exhausted, anxious, and disconnected from your own potential.
With support, you’ll reclaim your professional power. You’ll speak up with confidence, advocate for yourself, and create boundaries that honor your energy and expertise. You’ll stop proving you’re enough and start truly feeling it, understanding that your value exists independently of recognition, approval, or output. Work becomes a space where you can thrive, not just survive.
Reclaim Yourself and Your Life
You deserve a life where your needs matter, where your voice is heard, and where your presence is honored.
Therapy provides a safe, compassionate space to examine the patterns that keep you self-abandoning, to release old beliefs, and to cultivate new ways of showing up for yourself. You’ll reconnect with your desires, reclaim your boundaries, and discover the freedom that comes from living fully aligned with your authentic self.
Healing, Alignment, and Transformation Are Possible
You do not have to carry this alone. Together, we’ll chart a path that stops self-abandonment and opens space for you to receive the care, respect, and love you deserve—from yourself and from others. This is more than change; it’s transformation. You are worthy of thriving, claiming joy, and building a life that truly reflects who you are.
Call today for a free 30-minute consultation: (510) 473-5733. Let’s begin the journey back to your authentic self—one rooted in self-honoring, empowerment, and ease.